I’m nothing if not traditional

In my last Twilight Series post, I talked about how dangerous it is for someone to live for someone else’s love, but today I’d like to draw your attention to one of the nicest things in the whole Twilight story.

Something rarely found nowadays: Principles and values.

If you put all fiction aside, you will have to agree with me that Edward was all about values. Maybe because in the story he is from another time, a time when people valued themselves and each other, where they respected limits and boundaries and when a relationship between a man and a woman wasn’t about passion or sex or keeping up with what everybody else was doing.

Here are a few things I really like about the way Edward deals with his relationship with Bella:

He’s all about family. He understands that there’s a place for everyone in a family. He respects his parents and siblings and does not ignore or forget about them because of his love for Bella.

He insists on Bella telling her dad about their relationship. He goes to her house to ask his permission.

He wanted what was best for her. He wanted her happiness, even if that meant leaving her.

They date but they don’t have sex. He thinks sex is to be had only after a couple is married.

And here’s the real killer for me: He wants to marry her! He doesn’t want to have her for a couple of weeks and then move on to someone else. He doesn’t want her so he can add one more name to his list and reinforce his reputation as a player. He wants to marry her!

Like I said, this is rarely found nowadays, but let’s say it happens. Let’s say a guy truly likes a girl and wants to wait for the right time to even date her. Let’s say he does not think of her as something to be used; he respects her and actually wants to wait until they are married to sleep together. What do you think would be the girl’s response to that kind of behavior?

Many would respond the same way Bella did. They “love” the guy so much (especially due to his many qualities) that they end up destroying the very qualities they love him for.

Edward wanted to ask permission to date Bella. She thought that was not necessary.

He wants to marry her. She thinks marriage is a failed institution and a thing from the past really.

He wants to keep himself until marriage. She wants to take her clothes off at the earliest opportunity.

Many women like to blame men for breaking their hearts, using them, disrespecting them, but how can they when they’ve long forsaken their own self-respect?

Girls need to start valuing themselves more, respecting themselves more and then people, including men, will start treating them likewise…