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Showing posts with label heart. Show all posts
Showing posts with label heart. Show all posts

Friday, March 2, 2012

You are my life now




Bella meets Edward. Bella falls in love with Edward.

Bella would do anything for him. Be anything for him.

Bella lives and breathes Edward.

Bella is dead scared to lose him.

Edward breaks up with Bella.

Bella falls apart.

Bella stops living.

This is what happens in the second movie. Edward loves her so much and is so concerned about her safety and happiness that he decides that she would have a better chance at that if he wasn’t around… And so he decides to leave her.

After that Bella falls into depression, has constant panic attacks, doesn’t talk to anyone, doesn’t look forward to anything anymore. It was like her life walked out the door the minute he walked out of her life.

I wish this was something that only happened in movies, but unfortunately this is pretty much the reality of many girls nowadays.

They meet a guy, fall head over hills for him and the ‘love’ they feel is so strong that they are absolutely sure they can’t live without him.

And so they do whatever is necessary to keep that person’s love.

They go against their better judgment.

They turn against their parents if they dare disagree with her ‘new found love’.

Others give themselves completely and unconditionally to the guy, just so they won’t lose them.

They turn away from friends, lose focus on their studies, forget about the plans they had for the future. They change the way they dress, hang out in places they would never go before, accept whatever and whenever, do whatever is necessary, risk everything for someone they say they love.

And the worst is, some even turn their backs on God and everything they once believed in. They abandon their faith; they throw their salvation out the window, and for what? For a guy who ‘loves’ them today and may ‘love’ someone else tomorrow.

They completely lose themselves.

But what if their ‘Edward’ turns out to be a jerk?

What if he decides he doesn’t ‘love’ her anymore?

What if her ‘life’ walks out on her and never even looks back?

If he was her life, what happens to her if he leaves?

What will she be left with?

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Mind over matter



If you have read the first book of theTwilight Saga or watched the movie, then you know that there's something about Bella that makes her extremely attractive to Edward: The scent of her blood.


He is a vampire and although he does not drink human blood, he feels extremely tempted to drink hers. The way the book describes it is that it's impossible for him to resist, everything in his body told him that not only should he drink her blood, but he NEEDED to drink it. It was his nature, the way he was, what he felt.


But everyone knows that he does not drink her blood. He falls in love with her instead.


Fiction apart, I'd like to draw your attention to this very important detail in the story. It's actually one of my favorite parts in the book. Bella asks him how come he can resist the temptation to just let nature run its course and kill her. 


His answer is: Mind over matter.


Which means his body craved for her blood, his nature screamed that that's what he needed to do, his heart told him he had all the reasons in the world to do it, but his mind... was another matter.


He knew in his mind that that was not right, it was not the right thing to do. That just because he felt something, didn't mean he actually needed to act on it. He let his mind call the shots; he chose his mind to be in control of his actions.


If you think you can't take any lessons from the Twilight Saga, here's one: He chose to let his mind call the shots in his life.


In our own lives we have urges, we have needs, we have feelings and temptation is just everywhere, but how many of us actually resist them? Go against them? Fight them?


Your mind tells you this is not the right time for a relationship or that the relationship you are currently in is not good for you. But you heart tells you that you need it, it's ok, everybody has someone, you are entitled to have someone too.


Your mind says you should be applying yourself to your studies, career, work, your family, but you feel you have time enough for that later.


Your mind tells you that sex should be saved for marriage, when both man and woman have made a life-long commitment to each other, but your heart tells you 'why not now? You both love each other and besides, the temptation is just too much to resist'.


Your mind tells you that there are certain sacrifices you have to make in your life, like leaving those friends that are not good for you for example... you feel that it would be unfair to leave those 'who were always there for you'.


Your mind tells you a lot of things. Everyday. So does your heart. 


Which one have you been listening to?


There is a constant battle between what you feel is right and what you KNOW is right.


But the question is, which one are YOU letting win?