A movie kind of love

'If your feelings are still what they were last April, tell me so at once. My affections and wishes have not changed, but one word from you will silence me forever. If, however, your feelings have changed, I will have to tell you: you have bewitched me, body and soul, and I love, I love, I love you. I never wish to be parted from you from this day on.'

Oh my! I gotta say that when I first heard these lines from the movie Pride and Prejudice, I simply melted!! I thought it was so beautiful, so touching, so romantic.

I used to wonder how it would feel like to be loved that much, to be showered with beautiful words and see in his eyes the love he had kept for me only. But isn't that how many girls also think?

You could just picture yourself being approached by that extremely handsome guy, who you've always liked. He comes to you and says he needs to talk to you urgently and before you can make sense of what is happening or what he wants to talk to you about, he starts saying how much he loves you...

Now, wouldn't that be something?

Well, this is what happens when we watch romantic movies, they show that a relationship between two people is perfect, magical, full of romance, beautiful words, being happy, falling in love, loving the person of your dreams and have him love you back. Love that lasts forever, that distance cannot separate and time can never kill... that no matter what happens, you will be together in the end. If you are meant for one another, then you will overcome all obstacles.

And although all that sounds wonderful, I must tell you that it's not how it really works.

The love we see in movies is just a dream-like version of a love that is completed centered on the self, in this case on the person who is watching it. Most girls usually like romantic movies because they would like to have that same kind of love and devotion, they would like to be loved with that same intensity.

Basically you want to receive, you want to experience it, you want somebody to love you, to care for you, to make you happy. You, you, you...

How many girls feel sad, frustrated and just plain desperate to find someone right after watching a romantic movie? And why is that? Because they are thinking about themselves, they are thinking about their needs, their dreams, their expectations. They just want to find someone who will give them all that.

But how can that be true love? How can love be about one person only? How could it be so selfish?

It can't! It isn't! Love is not about taking advantage of the other person, it's not about what he has to offer you, it's about what you can add to that person's life. It's about whether you have what it takes to make the other person happy or not. It's not about you!

If you want to experience what real love is, don't go by what you see in movies or read in books. That is a very unfair expectation on the other person. He will not be perfect, the same way you are not perfect.

So, by all means, watch romantic movies if you like, but don't base your future expectations on them. If you do... all I can say is that I feel sorry for your boyfriend! And I fell sorry for you too...

P.S.: I can already see some girls using this post as an excuse to accept any loser that comes their way, to use it to justify keeping someone in their lives who is harmful to them and then say, 'well, he is not great, but it's not about what I get, but what I give '. Distort my words however you want, but that's not what this post is about and you know it!