In my last Twilight Series post, I talked about how
dangerous it is for someone to live for someone else’s love, but today I’d like
to draw your attention to one of the nicest things in the whole Twilight story.
Something rarely found nowadays: Principles and values.
If you put all fiction aside, you will have to agree with me
that Edward was all about values. Maybe because in the story he is from another
time, a time when people valued themselves and each other, where they respected
limits and boundaries and when a relationship between a man and a woman wasn’t
about passion or sex or keeping up with what everybody else was doing.
Here are a few things I really like about the way Edward
deals with his relationship with Bella:
He’s all about family. He
understands that there’s a place for everyone in a family. He respects his
parents and siblings and does not ignore or forget about them because of his
love for Bella.
He insists on Bella telling her
dad about their relationship. He goes to her house to ask his permission.
He wanted what was best for her.
He wanted her happiness, even if that meant leaving her.
They date but they don’t have sex.
He thinks sex is to be had only after a couple is married.
And here’s the real killer for me:
He wants to marry her! He doesn’t want to have her for a couple of weeks and
then move on to someone else. He doesn’t want her so he can add one more name
to his list and reinforce his reputation as a player. He wants to marry her!
Like I said, this is rarely found nowadays, but let’s say it
happens. Let’s say a guy truly likes a girl and wants to wait for the right
time to even date her. Let’s say he does not think of her as something to be
used; he respects her and actually wants to wait until they are married to
sleep together. What do you think would be the girl’s response to that kind of
behavior?
Many would respond the same way Bella did. They “love” the
guy so much (especially due to his many qualities) that they end up destroying
the very qualities they love him for.
Edward wanted to ask permission to date Bella. She thought
that was not necessary.
He wants to marry her. She thinks marriage is a failed institution
and a thing from the past really.
He wants to keep himself until marriage. She wants to take
her clothes off at the earliest opportunity.
Many women like to blame men for breaking their hearts,
using them, disrespecting them, but how can they when they’ve long forsaken
their own self-respect?
Girls need to start valuing themselves more, respecting
themselves more and then people, including men, will start treating them
likewise…
